Maybe Honesty Really IS the Best Policy

At the end of this post, you might be tempted to think, “Hmph – no wonder she’s still single.” Resist the temptation. This is small change.

I’ve grown rather weary of “The Game” – mostly due to the number of years I’ve been playing it, albeit rather poorly – so I am trying a new approach in my dating pursuits: blatant honesty.

The thing is, I actually believe in honesty and try to be a pretty honest, straight forward girl – what you see is what you get. Some might debate this due to things like my frequent use of the phrase, “It doesn’t matter.” It almost ALWAYS matters. Anyway - thinking back, I realized that I’ve pulled punches when, for the good of both players, maybe I shouldn’t have. So, I’m determined to mend my ways.

I give you Exhibit A:
I "met" a guy who was rather moody (yes, moody); he frequently gave me this crazy attitude about not being online enough, made snide remarks about me being busy when he thought I should be IM’ing him, and got annoyed with me not having a particular time open for a date (all this before ever meeting face to face). When he canceled the date because I wasn't online enough that week and then asked if he still had a chance, I’d had enough foolishness and said, “Hey! I’m looking for someone to actually be nice to me and treat me with respect. You aren’t doing that. And, while we’re on the subject, it bugs me that you are rude and get annoyed with me not being available enough for you . . . ” and some other stuff I can’t remember.

I was surprised at his reply (probably because I was expecting a female-like retort). He responded that he deserved every word and thanks for telling him. Wow. First sensible thing he said.

I’m tempted to try this forthright approach again. It’s so liberating (and effective).